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Like outfits that you no longer fit into nor feel your best wearing, the expressions that you once called your identity, and in which you may have once felt best suited, can evolve to points where they no longer serve you and who you are in the present. And, in the process of outgrowing what you once thought you were (due to habits of overidentification, conditioning, ignorance, etc), you make room to see the true beauty of what is there beyond the seemingly changeable. This is a natural process of transformation and is ongoing throughout life. And, if you engage in the process consciously, with full intelligent awareness, you can even use the process to become purified of all false identities in order to fully express the pure essence of your undistorted/unchanging True Self, beyond all distortions of changing and temporary form. This evolution is the essence of what you are exploring here in this post and on this site as you journey on the Eight-Limbed Path and beyond to the Liberation that marks your full coming into your True Self.
While it can often feel like a huge undertaking to repurpose your old garments and to embody your newly expanded expression once your old ego costumes have expired, and, this may even involve having to let go of things that were incredibly expensive and maybe even once cherished, releasing the old/what is finished and making room for what is True for you now is vital for you to fully grow into who you are in your truest and purest expression. Again, this (in order to reach your full potential in life) is natural. No one, especially anyone who is continually working to develop and learn can avoid the inevitable joy and misery that comes with metamorphosis until he or she gets the hang of managing the emotional intensity of change without too much identification with what needs to be released in order to handle any discomfort that may come up from not knowing what will come next.
Many people know that letting go is often accompanied by grief and its associated pains of sadness, anger, discomfort, and so forth, but, like everything else in life, becoming good or better at letting go is a skill that you have to develop and master over time. Why most people fail at, or have a hard time, shedding the old (which is the first and most important stage of any transition), however, is that while many are somewhat familiar with the process of letting go, and some may even understand the concept very well, conceptual familiarity does not automatically make a person good at the things that they “know.” The skill of actually putting any understanding into practice (actually enacting and embodying what you know, and thus, truly knowing it) is not coincidentally, intellectually, or passively acquired nor expressed. The skill comes through an appropriate form/type of practice.
You cannot simply wish change-mastery or any other skill into existence. Change mastery (or at least competence), like all other skills, is only truly developed and strengthened through valid foundational understanding, experience, reflection, and “meditation” on one’s experiences.
Just like with all internal growth, learning to let go does not come without the necessary “work.”
There is no shortcut, highway, zipline, nor underground market that will get you the internal muscles that you need in order to become masterful at managing change well enough to create it consciously and/or to move through it smoothly/gracefully…Especially when it comes to change that is ties to higher forms of internal development. Just like developing physical strength, dexterity, agility, and flexibility, developing internal strengths and muscles like resilience and/or psychological empowerment, requires concentration, effort, and practice, and often also requires pushing through pain and discomfort that may be unpleasant to experience in the moment even while it is simply indicating that a desired shift or transformation is taking place.
The good news (or bad depending on your level of resistance to this understanding), however, is that life will provide you with plenty of opportunities to practice and get better. And, the better news is that your practice does not have to be unbearable torture.
Because change (especially when tied to natural processes) is almost always molding you into a new, more suitable, form for your well-being, survival, and optimal thriving, most of your work involves simply paying attention to what is needed, getting out of the way, and taking the necessary steps in the desired direction when/if applicable. Once you are able to pursue a desired change-path with passion and enthusiasm, but without attachment so that you can more easily let go of all that does not align, or assist, with this path at any given time, you will begin to have a more enjoyable journey toward your “ultimate destination,” no matter what changes occur (or need to occur) along the way.
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