You Are Manifested As A Social Being Connected To All In/Of Existence; Do Not Reduce Yourself (or Your Self) To A Social Animal, Dependent On, Or Desperate For, Others To Fulfill Your Inner Needs
If healthy connection with other people is not available to you based on the current context of your life and/or your social environment/situation, DO NOT force any connection, because, obviously, that connection will not be healthy. A healthy and happy human being is one who is purely connected.
And, the purest connection that any human being can have in his/her life is a connection with her/his True Self and the higher, formless, eternally present, all-pervasive, all-encompassing, being that some call God, and others call Spirit (among other labels).
Your highest potential connection in life is not with any person’s, or people’s, ego body-mind…because, even if you connect with other people’s spirit (and that connection is good), you are only connecting back to your Self.
A Social Being’s Healthy Connection With Self And “Others”
Creating healthy connection with yourself/higher Self/Spirit is not only more than sufficient for your mental/psychological wellbeing, but, it is also the only True necessity in life…And it is also truly the only possibility in Reality as well, since you and all of Creation are one and the same, and there is only one being expressed as existence itself, shining ever-present, everywhere, in actuality. In other words, connecting to yourself/your Self, connects you to everything, and everyone, else in existence automatically, and you do not need others, in the worldly sense, to be fully “connected.”
Always remember that “you” are a social being, and not just a “social animal.” And being social does not mean being a dependent/depraved individual who “needs” others for things, and/or for a sense of fulfillment.
What It Means To Be A Social Being
Being a social being, in its purest expression, translates into being grounded in your Yamas and Niyamas. It is consciously (with conscience) “getting along” with others: to collaborate, share, support, cooperate, and to live peacefully and ethically without creating harm based on any animalistic ego body-mind tendencies and urges that you may have to fulfill your needs and desires above all else. It is living by the golden rule, and working for the betterment of more than just your limited personal expression.
This is why the correct way to use the term “anti-social” is not in reference to people who like to be alone (or else monks would also fit into this category). The term anti-social identifies certain types of destructive and manipulative individuals who disregard the welfare of others and engage in harmful behaviors regardless of who (and as long as it is not them who) suffers.
Being social (though it is often used to mean varying things colloquially) is not about having a lot of “friends” and being “the life of the party.” Being “social” (as it relates to your relationship with everyone in existence) is defined by having a conscience that includes the happiness, wellbeing, and safety of others, and, therefore, behaving conscientiously with others (whether or not these others also fundamentally “care” for you or your life to any level or to any degree in their connection or disconnection from themselves, or, whether these “others” can do anything for you directly).
Being a truly social, and well-adjusted, human being when it comes to relating to other people, therefore, is about fully being connected to your higher expressions, like empathy, compassion, and kindness.
In The Bondage Of Lower reality/Maya, Others May Not, In Their Animal Attachment/Desperation, Truly Love Or Care About You…And You Will Still Be Perfectly Fine
There is a common myth within our species, often supported by pseudo (biased, and/or incomplete) science, that people “need” “connection with others” in order to thrive psychologically…But, this idea is a myth for one primary reason–which we have pretty much covered above.
Though many believe the myth of “needing” human connection because it is shared so far and wide, it is simply not True that humans need connection with anything.
Humans simply need connection. And, again, the highest, most stable, secure, and trustworthy connection that humans can have is with themselves and/or their “Higher Self,” “a higher power,” or “Spirit.”
Some of us may not having loving parents, loving family members, loving colleagues, loving neighbors, and so forth. And many of us may not even live in loving societies, but all of us can ALWAYS cultivate Love in our own hearts, give Love to ourselves, and extend our Love freely into all of existence as just a natural part of who we are in essence and in Spirit.
If you cannot find healthy connection with other people for any reason (and you are not morally decrepit and difficult to be around due to selfishness and/or lack of self-control, etc…ie. nothing is “wrong with you”), I encourage you to not give in to ignorant peer pressure that says that you have to “connect” with others for the sake of ego-connection alone. Protect your peace and inner sanctity.
Remember, please, that pure/True connection alone is the key element for your wellbeing, not the part that states that other people need to be involved.
Connect with Nature, connect with a pet, connect with an uplifting song or book, connect with life. These higher connections are more than enough to maintain your wellbeing. I guarantee it.
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