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If you have ever watched someone reduce themselves (or others) to their bank account, their title, their body, their car, or some other arbitrary, temporary, and/or artificial (often blatantly false) sense of self-accomplishment, such as the approval or rejection of others or outside institutions, and so forth, to prove their “worthiness” or “unworthiness,” you will recognize the uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach that makes you either want to laugh out loud when their Self-reduction is slightly comical (if you happen to be a fan of the British comedy called Keeping Up Appearances, you will know what I am referring to here), or cry or vomit if it is a deeper delusion and you can clearly see that they have lost connection to themselves and/or their humanity and have fallen into their aggressive animal brain that has solidified an over-identification with an illusory ego.
Because I enjoy watching cooking shows to see if there are any new techniques that I can learn to apply to my own food preparation toolkit, I (because it is one of the offerings on my streaming platform), at one point, briefly started watching the popular series led by Chef Gordon Ramsay called Hell’s Kitchen where I was able to observe a very good example of the latter (although life inevitably brought many clear observations of this as well).
As a fan of Mr. Ramsay’s honesty that makes it so that people who prepare food for others to put into/become apart of their bodies do so with integrity and some sense of respect for their fellow human beings who pay them money (that they most likely sacrificed time and energy to exchange) for the food creations (although not always a fan of Mr. Ramsay’s screaming), I gave the series a try one summer afternoon. The show was a bit of a diversion from the skill-building type shows that I occasionally watched, but after watching Mr. Ramsay help restaurant owners clean up their acts in one of his previous shows, I pursued observation of the series because I enjoy the human behavioral study that his shows always inevitably turn into.
One pattern that I noticed among impatient restaurant-goers who would “lose their cool” after waiting for the new chefs to prepare their food is that, sometimes, these angry people would get into altercations that did not seem to be with anyone except themselves. One form of fighting with words that I noticed that these self-fighting individuals often used was posturing with titles and awards. Blame it on hanger, but I remember one man in particular who aggressively pointed his finger in another persons’ face and spit out something along the lines of “do you know who I am?” (obviously, the other man did not) before listing his job title and degrees (which I do not remember) and then physically attacking the person in front of him and storming out of the restaurant.
The ego (terrified of being harmed by the same damningly hateful and oppressive social structures–patriarchy, sexism, racism, classism, etc.–that it sustains and that sustains it) has a powerful/binding (and blinding) hold on the minds and emotions of many. It can make people believe that they are things that they are actually not in truth (like “important” or “not important” based on arbitrary factors that can and do change over time, when people are never reduced to, nor defined by, any thing at all, being an expression of pure Spirit/consciousness itself), make people feel threatened by things that are not threatening in the very least (like a harmless melanated human, or behaviors/preferences that they are ignorant about), and it supports many with delusionally and arrogantly attempting to “shame” others (and themselves) for not being more invested in ego-creation, projected role-plays, and the solidification of oppressive social, mental, and forced physiological, and even “spiritual” structures (often in that person’s own body-mind that has nothing to do with anyone else).
And all you have to do is to take a neutral and honest look at social media, and most cultures at large, for all of the examples of this that you need.
The existence of the concept of celebrity in virtually all societies, for one of many examples, where most of our grandmothers have more personal significance, meaning, and value in our lives in truth, reduces (with the appearance of elevating) people to the roles that they play in the Maya of Self-delusion. This creation of the myth of importance based on “entertainment/market value” (or meaningless “social value”) reduces all people in society to the “value” that they carry for perpetuating stories and customs that suit particular world views and interests for the sake of financial profit, oppressive (often violent/violating) control, and/or ego-boosting “gain.”
This then reduces talent, skill, and innate value to something that can be sold/commoditized in exchange for money and attention, and people are “rewarded” accordingly for playing limited/limiting versions of themselves that also maintain the false-sense-of-identity (or just fabricated/curated image) of others and uphold the legitimacy of artificial social orders (that in truth, only benefit a small few who, over time, have placed themselves (with a lot of noise, hype, fanfare, deception/lying, violence, and/or distraction) in roles of importance as “Monarchs,” “Leaders,” and “god-like figures,” for others to look up, or bow down, to regardless of their “deservingness” based on the reality of their character and if they actually make a true positive influence/contribution to the world, or take progressive actions that serve the greater good of/for all or anyone else except their body-mind-egos or the systems that maintain the(ir) status quo).
What this pattern does at its core is to distract many from the Truth, and from Reality, and it seems to even disempower some from looking within themselves to see the true value in their simple being (or even their vital contribution to the functioning of society if they “perform roles” that make little money, or have low social currency, but has great positive impact on the lives of others), making it so that a talking or dancing-head on a screen appears (simply because one sees it over and over again, often against their choice with persistently aggressive “marketing” and advertising, and gives it power through attention) to hold more value than the person who grows your food or ensures that your streets are not overrun with garbage, or that your children can read, or that your life can be preserved if you have a heat stroke (people who you rarely, or never, see nor “value” because they are “common,” and sell or provide valuable and useful commodities to the people in society instead of trying to deceive others into believing that their mere social role, title, or ego-identity itself, is a commodity that benefits anyone except their body-mind or that of those who also financially profit from their acts–like you can so clearly see in the performances seen everywhere from those projected on “reality” TV to those shared by “regular people” playing roles that are limited and binding as they ask for social validation from advertisers, or sponsors, who they direct audiences to, or uphold ways of thinking for, to keep going as YouTube “Vlogs,” or other “social media content”).
What To Do To Avoid Becoming “Hypnotized” By The Illusion
- Look within and to what is Real: It can be tempting to look for distractions and amusement in life, but your life needs your full presence and participation. Your attention is valuable (clicks on videos alone now quantifies and commoditizes this). You should know more about your Self and what is True in your own life through reflection and observation, for example, than you do about the names and histories of the brands and actors of the world. If you know more about what a Youtuber thinks about an issue than what you do about it, and have never truly asked any questions about what real value any given “star,” “leader,” or “celebrity” (in “entertainment,” “scientific,” religion/”spiritual circles,” or politics), actually has in your life with neutral critical discernment, you may be giving more of your mental energy (money…or whatever they feed on) away than you need to, or is good for you or anyone else other than the person/entity that is greedily taking these things from you to begin with without ever truly giving you anything of value in return.
- Do your best not to form attachments to the intangible things outside of you, especially the projected images of the human form: Fall in love with the people in your life, for example, as opposed to projected images that are curated and framed on videos or on a poster for your consumption, confusion, reaction, or “entertainment.” Those who prey on you for attention, status, money, etc. will never outwardly tell you that they are doing so (as anything other than “just a joke,” which means that it is your responsibility to discern this for yourself). The people who pose as “leaders” in positions that try to serve as authoritative figures (trying to command and control you like a child, or a slave, or a “follower,” or as if they were your “father”–typical of the influence of patriarchal structures, for example, even though they were not there for you from the time that you were born till the time you meet [bringing them your money or attention by the way], they never raised nor cared for you, much less understand nor even give a rat’s booty about you) are not your leaders, rulers, nor your “lords.” And those who pose for the image of these fabricated roles to sell the illusion of any digestibility to these fantasies that they try to get you to play out in “real life” with them (for example, actual actors on a stage who you believe are showing you anything other than a re-creation of imagination that you take as real models/reflections of roles that exist in society, ex. mother, or father…), although many go along with this dynamic for some time (often simply because they start out as naïve and/or insecure children who crave attention and validation due to ignorance), are also just people who are trapped, will age, will decay, and will die like all other people, but before they do, many of their first death is often their falling out of importance/trend in the minds of others (if their fate isn’t in seeing through to the emptiness of the images they helped to fabricate in the first place). Their only role, as disposables to the system that they are recruited to “make real,” is to sell an illusion that you will buy into and believe (and thus play along with to manufacture more players to keep the act going). Don’t fuel a beast that destroys both yours and another’s humanity, and attempts to suppress divine freedom, and/or reduces people to ego-gratifying attention-getting tools/puppets in exchange for money. Stay grounded in the Reality of the inherent Truth and divinity. And in your “regular life,” focus on “walking in the light,” with full awareness, and with the people (and/or pets) who actually matter in your manifestation and treat everyone you encounter as a fellow human being (all divine, but most showing up as purely asinine). The people who directly impact your life deserve your attention more than a system that perpetuates lies, temporary and false idols, and exploits your attention, creativity, and life-force energy for money, etc. You may think that your attention is a small price to pay, but it is in fact, incredibly powerful.
- Learn how to identify true value when you encounter it in the world: An apple, for example, grown from seed and with sun and water is more vital to the sustenance of your life than even the most valuable iPad. A bee, as another example, is just as important to agriculture as our Earth’s farmers. And though we are all inherently interconnected on this planet, and all make a contribution in their own way, always remember that the people who sincerely care about your well-being, safety, happiness, etc., with no agenda nor money involved, are the only ones fitting to be called your friends or your family in your everyday life.
- Identify your worth through being (and cultivate the goodness that it brings through your thoughts, words, and actions): There is a reason why I never cared about people’s opinions or titles even when I could always whip out my own degrees or a past accomplishment to wave around if I ever needed to posture, or “vogue,” for some reason. But the fact that this image makes me laugh means that I find that concept/thought/image ridiculous. Degrees are for learning, vocational work (different from just taking actions that contribute to the greater good without the agenda of financial gain) is always for survival in a society that requires money to live (even if you create a lifestyle where you require just a little bit of it), and more or less money, or anything, at any given moment does not make you more or less than anyone else. Your accomplishments and expressions are always done only for your spirit’s expansion, especially your larger work/Dharma (what you contribute to existence beyond what you do to make money, ie. how you use your gift and knowledge to impact more than just your limited self and offspring). Your being is always separate from these things and eternally valuable in and of itself (especially when shining most purely). In fact, it is fair to say that your being is more “valuable” without any of these things in truth since these things can come and go, change, and create destruction (and always will), even your body and mind can, and will, always change and deteriorate, but consciousness (and the positive impact that you can make/allow when connected purely to it) always remains and always has inherent “value.”
It is easy, in the confusion and noise of society, to get attached to falsehoods (especially today with the existence of the internet); to take what is false to be true and to wear things that hold no weight (because they are illusions) as if they were precious and valuable gems, to cling to one thing (or false projection) or another out of fear or pride, to hold on to anything at all as if your very identity depended on it, afraid to lose it or to let it go because you do not have a solid foundation in what is permanent.
What I learned from letting go of my website to focus on growing, and growing something else (taking time to heal from the trauma of my car accident and so forth, and getting established in the business that allows me to do this work as a service), for about two years, only to restart this site again in an expanded place when the time was right, is what I want to now leave you with: nothing except what is eternal, is so precious that it cannot be replaced with something else, or sometimes, something more or “better” (and this does not include people who actually love and/or care about you, so please do not read that into this, and, further note that people–even the ones who do not know, care about, or love you–are not things).
Value what you have and create in life, but be willing to let everything go. Nothing external defines you. In the same way that you would/should not define/limit yourself based on any negative and fleeting falsehoods that people may project onto you out of jealousy, hatred, fear, anger, or any other mental delusion that they may hold (because these delusions are false and their minds are infected with illusions), you are not defined by any external markers that often illicit feelings of pride, or even admiration, either (because these delusions are false and the minds that maintain them are attached to and infected by illusion). Opinions and things that can change based on factors as fleeting as mood, and certainly fall apart in the face of facts/evidence, can never define you (or others). Remain grounded in what is Real, eternal, and True…noting that, if even life itself is fleeting and impermanent, why would you give an ounce of weight to unwashed opinions steeped in delusion?
Never overidentify with things that are not the Truth and/or the True Self, nor become attached to them. Disregard every role that the world tries to, in ignorance or infatuation, force you to play, don’t even give these things validity by giving them your attention, and choose to remain shining in your pure, incorruptible, essence, out of which you are inspired to higher actions that do not keep you trapped in Karmic entanglement with lost and confused “others” who are steeped in ignorance and illusion.
Nothing, except that which cannot be improved upon or changed (because it is perfect in, of, and onto itself), the eternal Source and the True Self, is worth identifying yourself with. If you are inspired, or wish to explore (different from the illusion of “becoming”), any given role (or more accurately, actions, expressions, contexts, and so forth, that are arbitrarily/socially associated/assigned to roles) within the play of Maya at any given time throughout your life, do it (as long as, for true Yogis, this does not create harm), but never over-identify with the things that you can put on, change, and take off; that is silly.
You are the boundless plane of existence, the infinite space and potential, upon which all things are possible and can manifest into tangible reality (through you, through your thoughts, through your actions, through your influence, through your desires, through your intentions/efforts, etc.) with the right conditions (which are vast and unlimited, and sometimes limiting, but always irrelevant in Reality).
Avoid limiting your knowledge of Self to a concept in your mind. And certainly never get confused by the crazy projected fantasies in anyone else’s warped/limited imagination/delusion (no matter how “flattering”). Avoid reducing your Self to any fleeting thing. Avoid solidifying superimposed false-senses of identity over the magnificence of who you actually are in Truth…Even if/though you certainly can do so when/if you wish to play around within Maya and/or become lost in the illusion when not thinking “straight,” intelligently, nor clearly.
Live connected to your True Self for this lifetime and you will remain free.
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