A Message To Those Who Have Experienced Trauma Beyond Ego Trauma
I see you as a human being who has overcome great challenges and who can thrive in the world…a human being with strengths, value, and beauty and all of the wonderful qualities that make you unique and important to our collective oneness. Never limit yourself, or have anyone else limit you, to a broken product of your past or as a permanent victim of what happened to you. Your potential is unlimited, you are most likely alive and doing relatively well if you are reading this. Always remember that your True Self, beyond the illusion of the ego is uncorrupted by anything that you have risen above.
The literature, and common sentiment, on trauma and adversity tends to focus on issues that result from the experience of surviving unfortunate circumstances as if having lived through hardship makes those who have experienced these things and survived them (to, in many cases, do “better” than their “non-traumatized” peers) are more broken than the rest of humanity, when in Reality this is certainly not the case.
If it were the case that only trauma outside of ego-trauma was the reason that humans are afflicted by the many conditions listed in most discussions of trauma in general (conditions which not all trauma survivors even have themselves), then the world would be a most perfect place with mostly well-adjusted people, our species would experience very little struggle, there would be virtually no war or social problems, and so on and so forth, and we all know that, since the beginning of time, this has never been the case.
We also all know that no one who any of us has ever admired or who ever existed in history past or present has lived a life without suffering and the overcoming of it (not even Jesus or the Buddha were free from their share of suffering). It is also a fact that not even the most complexly traumatized individuals among us spends every waking minute of their life in a state of dysfunction. Humans are dynamic, complex, and resilient creatures, our species had, and have, to be for survival.
The Reality of life is clearly outlined in the Four Noble Truths. No one, until they have obtained liberation from the cycle that plagues humanity, and dissolved the ego safely and completely, transcending the trappings and attachments of the world, escapes the suffering that comes with being born into this world.
All human beings, before reaching a state of Self-Realization are dysfunctional and prone to experiencing and creating suffering through their karma (thoughts, words, and actions that have a cause and effect in the world).
With this in mind, I view every unrealized human on this planet as a survivor of trauma because no one comes into life without developing an ego which exhibits all of the trauma symptoms written on all medical lists. Even though most people are in denial of this fact because we have collectively managed to create societies where some egos can hide more effectively behind warped social norms, the Truth is that unless you are a liberated being who has transcended the ego and its attachments and compulsions, you are living as a traumatized human on planet Earth.
Until you are aware of this, you are not ever truly moving forward in life. You are only stuck in an illusion (no matter how enjoyable that illusion may be at any point).
Awareness of this is the first step to healing and stepping into your True Self most effectively.