“The simple fact of the matter is that everyday human (and Earthly) experiences, and partaking in them consciously, can lead to one’s absolute liberation and connection with their divine expression, but before one can be liberated through, or by, these experiences, that person has to be liberated from them.
The only way to do this is to remain unattached and neutral, following the middle path at all times, which is why one of the skills that one develops on their journey toward self-realization is the skill of equanimity.”
If you are stressed about the outcome of a situation, feeling pain and/or anxiety when you think about obtaining a goal, or generally feeling frazzled, overly excited, or drained when you think about the future, the chances are that you are mentally, emotionally, physically and/or spiritually attached to one desire or more, and this is the cause of your suffering.
Drsta: seen, experienced | Anusravika: heard | Visaya: object | Vitrsnasya: of him who is free from cravings | Vasikara: mastery | Samjna: consciousness, clear knowledge | Vairagyam: non-attachment
Desire can be a beautiful thing when it is paired with non-attachment and comes with a foundation of discernment.
When desires are controlling a person instead of that person simply responding to their desires from a place of choice, however, then this lost control/corruption of the mind and senses will create a situation where that individual is perpetually trapped in a cycle of suffering. When everything that a person thinks about, does, and maybe even speaks of, is based on an uncontrollable urge as opposed to a controlled power over themselves or their urges, he/she can never be at peace. Instead, this person will be in a state of constant grasping for fleeting experiences of pleasure as opposed to peacefully receiving, and constantly enjoying, the blissful pleasure of simply being alive.
In order to achieve peace in the constantly-unfolding present moment so that one can eventually attain enlightenment, one needs to be free from desires; free in the sense that one is not attached to these desires, even though absolute renunciation of desire itself is not required for this freedom to be achieved.